The moment a man becomes a dad (father) when that first child is born, you adopted a child, or became a step dad, etc. life will never be the same!
The emotions of love, joy, overflows, yet fear and doubt rises up because of the great responsibility in this life journey to raise that child or children.
Its one thing to have kids, but its another thing to be a Father. Children are a gift and a heritage of the Lord and as a dad we get one shot at raising them. This my friend is not easy and there are many mistakes and challenges on the way.
Dads are Dedicated. Pouring out and investing time with their children. There are many sacrifices on the way even into adulthood. The most challenging part of being a dad is an example of unconditional love, forgiveness, and keeping your word or promises. Sacrifices come in many forms and behind the scenes labors of love without seeking attention goes a long way. Its an honor when your kids give you a compliment.
Dads are available. There have been many a day when I couldn’t rub two nickels together, but I was there in difficult times and the best of times. Listening and trying to understand my child without judging or trying to be a helicopter parent controlling their every move. Watching your child fail or when I failed have always been the greatest test of character. These test were learning curves from the Lord and the answer was not to enable my kids. They had to figure some things out for themselves even if it was tough love.
Finally , a Dad is determined. Determined to do what is best and right for the child, even if it hurts as a father. Discipline has a sour taste these days, but it sure kept me in line when I grew up. The only “time outs” I heard as a kid were the time outs in sports. Learning to be a father is a lifetime journey, but I am determined to leave a legacy behind for my children when I leave this journey here on this earth some day. My epitaph on my grave will read,
“A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches” Proverbs 22:1
Being determined to serve has purpose and meaning. Besides it’s a privilege and honor to serve as a dad. “For the Son of man (Jesus) came not to be served, but to serve” Mark 10:45
My dad “Mundo” would have been 98 on June 16th. Happy birthday Dad. I love you.
Happy Father’s Day!
P.S. Also to the many single moms who have dual role as a dad too.