” Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.” Colossians 3:13-14 NLT
Holding a grudge can be detrimental to your own life. Harboring anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, resentment, or other negative feelings long after someone has done something to hurt you.
How do you respond when you are offended and somebody has over stepped their boundaries? Perhaps a close friend or relative has gossiped about you. Maybe it is a rumor or could it be true. When you find out your heart begins to race, your blood starts to boil. Negative feelings and emotions begin to get the best of you and your heart begins to get hard and your stressed out and angry. So you get tempted to get mad and try to get even. You cut off that friend, relative, or coworker. “I’ll show them!”
Is this reaction or response the best solution? Grudges have held hostage many a family feuds and close friendships. What does God think?
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Col.3:13.
God has a different attitude so why not have the same attitude. Let’s face it believers are human and families can be complicated. Paul wrote to the Colossian church because they had issues! In fact most of the churches he wrote to has problems. This grieves the heart of God. A grudge can stop the flow of God’s love in our life if we allow offenses and grudges build a wall between us.
Forgiveness is not easy, especially how deep you have been hurt. Or maybe you are the person who offended or over stepped your boundaries. How many best friends have been destroyed because of their girlfriend or boyfriend slept with their partner?
Forgiveness is a process and not an instant I’m sorry, or let’s move on. Forgivess is instant at the cross of Christ . Paul encourages us to forgive and not hate. Matter of fact he tells us to clothe ‘put on’ God’s love. Let the Lord take control of the situation and don’t allow a grudge destroy you spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or even physical the offense to kill you. Love is not a feeling as we have been conditioned but an act of our will. God’s love brings unity not division. Releasing whatever grudge you hold to Christ will release you from anger, bitterness. unforgiveness and more.
Pray-Ask the Lord to help you through this process, because God is in the business of reconciliation.
Pray for those who violated or offended you
Pray for God’s peace not the world’s peace to reside in your heart.
“And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.”
Colossians 3:15 NLT
Have a good and peaceful day my friend.