It’s mid October with Fall season in high gear. The holidays are creeping up so fast, yet so many people have experienced loss this past year or so. Loss of loved ones who have died such as , friends, coworkers, and loss due to the Coronavirus, senseless violence or even a suicide. Loss of belongings due to hurricanes, earthquakes, fires, and floods, etc.
Grief and grieving (sadness) is a real life emotion and can takes it’s toll on our lives. Perhaps you are still living in denial thinking the death really hasn’t happened! Let me emphasize that it’s okay to be angry; especially when the unexpected happens, so suddenly, with no preparation or planning ahead of time.
Grieving is part of life yet sometimes we can live under a cloud of guilt and condemnation like we had some control of the situation. Or ‘it’s my fault’ and we begin to re-live the ‘what ifs’ over and over in our minds. We get depressed or live in a long phase of depression for months and even years reasoning to ourselves what could have been or should have been, because we are to blame.
Accepting loss can be difficult, but is attainable in our grief. Drinking away our sorrows or living on prescription pills will not make the pain or guilt go away. Being angry at God or doubting Him is not the answer either. God knows exactly what you are going through in your difficult season. He understands your needs and emotions and for some reason allows us to go through very difficult times in life.
God’s love does not change and He loves you just the same. His merits with us are not based on works, but His unconditional love and grace. Grace is unmerited favor. I’ve learned that when we experience loss that the Lord wants us to reach out in compassion to help others in their loss. I do realize there are times that no words can be said, but to be present for them is important.
Let me end with an old hymn title, “What A Friend We Have in Jesus”. Jesus is always there even when we don’t feel or see His presence. ” For, I am always with you, even to the end of the age”. “Do not let your heart be troubled”, Jesus said.
Be strong my friend and don’t be afraid to get help. Its worth making the effort.