In Your Loss You Need A Friend

It’s mid October with Fall season in high gear. The holidays are creeping up so fast, yet so many people have experienced loss this past year or so. Loss of loved ones who have died such as , friends, coworkers, and loss due to the Coronavirus, senseless violence or even a suicide. Loss of belongings due to hurricanes, earthquakes, fires, and floods, etc.

Grief and grieving (sadness) is a real life emotion and can takes it’s toll on our lives. Perhaps you are still living in denial thinking the death really hasn’t happened! Let me emphasize that it’s okay to be angry; especially when the unexpected happens, so suddenly, with no preparation or planning ahead of time.

Grieving is part of life yet sometimes we can live under a cloud of guilt and condemnation like we had some control of the situation. Or ‘it’s my fault’ and we begin to re-live the ‘what ifs’ over and over in our minds. We get depressed or live in a long phase of depression for months and even years reasoning to ourselves what could have been or should have been, because we are to blame.

Accepting loss can be difficult, but is attainable in our grief. Drinking away our sorrows or living on prescription pills will not make the pain or guilt go away. Being angry at God or doubting Him is not the answer either. God knows exactly what you are going through in your difficult season. He understands your needs and emotions and for some reason allows us to go through very difficult times in life.

God’s love does not change and He loves you just the same. His merits with us are not based on works, but His unconditional love and grace. Grace is unmerited favor. I’ve learned that when we experience loss that the Lord wants us to reach out in compassion to help others in their loss. I do realize there are times that no words can be said, but to be present for them is important.

Let me end with an old hymn title, “What A Friend We Have in Jesus”. Jesus is always there even when we don’t feel or see His presence. ” For, I am always with you, even to the end of the age”. “Do not let your heart be troubled”, Jesus said.

Be strong my friend and don’t be afraid to get help. Its worth making the effort.

Published by Andy

Greetings! My name is Andy Provitola and I live in New England on the south shore between Boston and the beautiful Cape Cod region. The purpose of my blogging and writing is to encourage you in your journey here on planet earth. Life is full of pressing issues and problems and my desire is to discover a place for peace, hope, healing, and contentment. I am a follower of Jesus Christ – God’s one and only Son of God and discovered these truths along my own personal journey. Having discovered a personal relationship with God the Father through Jesus Christ does not mean I have to be religious to attain the rewards of heaven. The fact is God provides grace for us and accepts us as we are in His image. In other words, we cannot attain heaven or life eternal on our own, but by God’s loving grace and no merit of our own. My goal is to continue to find a balance of life from a spiritual and practical perspective with a purpose to please and glorify God in all that I do because of His ‘Gift of Grace’. God is not transcendent and so far away that he is out of reach with humanity. God desires that His presence lives within us and not just in the galaxies and the universe. Experiencing the unconditional love of God has been so rewarding and while discovering the truth and purpose for my life. Moving forward in this life is not a sprint, but a marathon when it comes to this race here on earth. I am blogging because I find it is a good way to connect in a much more effective and efficient way when it comes to communicating and interacting with with people that I do not know. Blogging and writing challenges me and also stretches me specifically in my thoughts, my mind, my emotions, and my spiritual life to live a vertical relation with God and a horizontal relationship with others. There will be a variety of topics and subjects to address including youth, young adults, family, singles, seniors, relationships, etc. Some of the topics will include God’s creation and power, depression, loneliness, suicide, hope, healing, setbacks, financial matters, business, stress, anxiety, care, encouragement, and so much more I would like to connect with all walks of life, ethnicity, culturally, other religions, socio-economics, and more I am currently writing a book and several memoirs about my own life and journey . The journey begins at a young age growing up in Malden, Massachusetts, specifically Maplewood Square to where I am today. I became paralyzed from the waist down as a senior in high school and I share how my life changed for the better! “But I do not consider my life as something of value or dear to me, so that I may [with joy] finish my course and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus. To testify faithfully of the good news of God’s [precious undeserved] grace [which makes us free of guilt of sin and grants us eternal life]. Acts 20:24 Amplified Version

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