I’ve always reminded myself that there’s a lot of second chances in life, but when it comes to raising your kids you have one shot. Let’s face it families are not perfect and we try to do the best we can with what we have at the time.
One thing we as father’s can never surrender is unconditional love to our children. I have learned that rather than try to control them or be a “helicopter parent”, I’ve allowed them to be creative and to make mistakes so they can learn to figure it out on their own. I do not want to be an enabler. Why?
Father’s are not perfect and eacj one of us have made mistakes. Whether we want to admit this or not.This is how they learn lessons in life. It is not healthy to try to live your failed life through your child. i.e. sports, academics, careers, etc.
The best lessons I have learned as a dad was to teach some positive lesson, and offer constructive criticism to my children. also, those times to receive constructive criticism helped me to be an example, and listen to their viewpoints and feelings.
Nothing is more important to me than to always be willing to be teachable and keep learning even through my children. In this process having a heart of unconditional love with compassion.
The story of the prodigal son in the gospel of Luke 15 reveals how, when his young son was so far off after living it up in his season of rebellion and selfishness, “his Father saw him out in the distance after he hit rock bottom and ran with compassion to his young son and they gave him a party for coming back”. This my son was dead but is now alive again”
The Father in this story is God loving each of us unconditionally and offers forgiveness even when we didn’t deserve it. God saw him at his lowest and the prodigal ‘came to his senses’.
Perhaps you have a stray child and it’s been months or even years since you have spoken to each other or your dad has strayed from you and the family. I want to encourage you to pick up the phone and reach out to him. Tell him you are sorry and that you love him. Ask for forgiveness, even if you keep justifying that you are right. This can be very difficult for some and I pray for God the Fathers Agape’ love to help you to reconcile your relationship. Brokeness and pain do not bring wholeness, but releasing the issues to God will make a difference and give you freedom. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
Wishing you a Happy Fathers Day Weekend! Celebrate Well and give all your concerns to God.